Looking back . . . and forward


Isn’t this the cutest early Mickey teaset?! It’s my mother’s – probably her chubby baby Australian fingers clasped that delicate handle and sipped from the cup. I’m now going through all of this kind of memorabilia, having moved my mother into a resthome before Christmas, and needing to clear out her previous apartment. It’s an – odd – time of the year to be doing just this. Perfect, I suppose, in that it is always a time of reflection on the previous year/s for me, and a looking forward to see what the coming year might hold.

In amongst her things are wonderful items that slow me down and make the process of clearing out so much harder:

Like the family bible, inscribed with the name of my great grandfather, Donald Urquhart (the Scottish connection). And the various badges and jewellery that all must have a story. The bronze plaque commemorating the great uncle I know died in WWI. I’m a sentimental lass, so although I have no room myself, and no children to pass these things on to, it’s very hard to part with them. Sigh. Do you feel my pain?

I guess we’ll store it all a bit longer, and let someone younger make the hard decisions. By then, the memory of the persons to whom these things belonged, will have faded.

Meanwhile, I come home and consider the coming year with some earnest hopes at the forefront. The biggest one for me, right now, is work. Although 2015 was a magnificent year as far as experiences, memories, travel, connections, creative endeavours go – but monetary-wise, it was not. So I’m scraping the bottom of the financial barrel and hoping that the possibility of a job I’d love that will be advertised in a few weeks, becomes mine in reality. I’m also picking up the pace with my exercise and diet again, along with Sam Heughan’s Peak Challenge. It was fun being encouraged by others and feeling part of a team to achieve some personal goals of fitness and health last year. Going to do it again in a few days. Check out @PeakPirates if you want to come too. (Or search for the Facebook page under that name).

Onward and upward!



  1. bigdohk · January 2, 2016

    I can relate,Jenny.Sifting through “things” that aren’t really “things” but parts and ieces of someones life can be both sad and thought provoking. It’s not an easy task,but well worth it in the end because it brings home your history and heritage. I’m heading into the New Year with renewed hope and dreams! I’m very excited for the first tie in a long time! My Peak Challenge is perfect for me right now to build me up mentally and physically. You well know how beaten I was last year! It’s my tie now! Much love as always,Jenny!xx

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    • jennyjeffries · January 2, 2016

      That is SO GOOD to hear, Karen. Great way to head into the year!


  2. bigdohk · January 2, 2016

    All the ties are supposed to be times!!!!


  3. Carol Pickersgill · January 2, 2016

    Ah, I do feel your pain re: the treasures residing amongst your mother’s belongings. You’re absolutely right that the memories of the people will fade in the generations to come. How sad and unnecessary. Why not take everything you have that you know something about, and memorialize it…Are there any other living relatives who might know something about the piece? Write down as much as you can about each item and its original owner, before all the little tidbits are lost for good. Get some acid-free storage packets, and pack up the items and their histories together in a box that you can keep at home or put in a bank deposit box. That way there will be *some* information to pass on, even though in many cases it will be incomplete. It’s entirely possible that there’s another “Jenny” lurking in your family who will some day want to hold onto and revere these family pieces…The fact that *you* have the memorabilia gene means it *will* pop up somewhere else in your family! You can even designate someone in a younger generation of your family to be caretaker for these items after you’re gone, instructing them to do the same, so that the treasures of your family, such as they are, will have a chance to remain intact and “at home.” Best wishes for a financial upswing in 2016! Happy New Year!

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    • jennyjeffries · January 2, 2016

      Ah, Carol, all very good ideas and thoughts, and yes, I’ve given thought to how to do that. We might make up a box using the wooden panels carved by our ancestor and put these items in there. That would be a start anyway. And I need to write down what I know of the background behind them.


      • Carol Pickersgill · January 3, 2016

        It’s sort of taking a leap of faith that someone in the family later on will care. My aunt and I went through the process when my grandmother died…All these beautiful little things and hundreds of pictures from Victorian times forward, full of people whose names are now gone because no one wrote down who they were. It’s very humbling. I found that working together with my aunt made the process more light-hearted. Anyway, its daunting, but fulfilling. Good luck with it. 🙂

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  4. Pam Saville · January 6, 2016

    It is a labour of love, I found looking through the family photo’s and memorabelia very emotional as my parents and I emmigrated to NZ and they never really told us much about our family. I have now connected with a cousin in England and between us we are trying to do my fathers side family tree and naming photo’s,
    it is a fun thing and we will get together in person one day soon and have a laugh and cry over some of the things we both missed out on. Keep positive and I know you will get the job of your dreams ” if you dream it, it will become ” and so to 2016 I hope it is good to you and we have more of your delightful memes and musings to look foward to. Much love and good luck.

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    • jennyjeffries · January 6, 2016

      I hope you get that day sooner rather than later. And thanks for your comments 😘😘😘


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